What Are You Thinking?

A group of us were in the lobby of our New York City apartment building waiting for the elevator when a woman came in carrying several shopping bags. She was busy talking on her phone as she proceeded to the front of the elevator line.

She set down all of her bags so she could push the button for the elevator. As soon as she pushed the button she recollected her bags and continued her phone conversation oblivious to the fact that the elevator button was already lit and there was a group of people waiting in line to get in the next elevator.

As soon as the elevator arrived, she was the first one through the door. All of us waiting in line looked at one another and shook our heads. When we got into the elevator someone offered to push the button for her floor, but she was too busy talking on the phone to answer.

I like to put a positive spin on things and think that most of us are just preoccupied with life and we are really not that rude, but sometimes you have to wonder.

Are you the person who lets the door close before the person behind you can grab it or do you hold it for the next person?

Are you the taxi driver who is so busy looking for the next customer across the street that you almost hit a pedestrian in the crosswalk?

Are you the driver who runs a stop sign because you are concentrating on problems at work?

Are you the parent in the bookstore who reads books to your children and then you leave the books scattered on the floor when you are finished?

Do you hear what your child is saying or are you stressing over all of the things that still need to be done?

What important things are you missing during the day when you are busy focusing on other things? How do you think other people see you? Do they think you are rude?

Take a closer look at your actions this week. Try to be aware of what is happening around you. Think of others and hold the door for the next person. (You may even occasionally hear a “thank you”.) Make life less stressful. Make time for chocolate.